People might perceive you as indecisive and perhaps even disingenuous.
Instead, try being honest, polite, and assertive.
This post originally appeared on theCrew blog.
I was labeled as the nice girl my entire life.
Looking back at this I’ve realized how detrimental it can be to hold yourself to this standard.
I think many nice people like myself get caught up because we think we’re beinggoodpeople.
Human beings are dynamic like that.
It’s not in anyone’s best interest if you go out of your way to be nice.
In fact, being nice can be detrimental to you and those around you in a number of ways.
I feltaddictedto being nice.
It’s important to realize that people ask for you opinions becausethey care about what you have to say.
Though there issome debateabout whether this method is effective or not.
The important thing is that you are providing realistic feedback, not simply being nice.
“This might just be me but…” or “In my opinion…").
If you really mean the nice things you say and do, that’s great.
But if you don’t, just say how you really feel.
Everyone will be better off for it.
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