We get frustrated by a lot of things.
Some make sense like our car breaking down.
Others, less so, like everyday traffic.
To deal with everyday frustrations like these, employ the ABCD method.
The problem with many of our frustrations is that we irrationally expect that totally normal things wont happen tous.
The phone call we werent expecting.
The person in front of us at the checkout line whos writing acheck.How dare they?
The problem isnt really those other people.
it’s possible for you to adjust your expectation with what notable psychotherapist and researcherAlbert Elliscalls the ABCD method.
As tips blog Barking Up the Wrong Tree explains:
A is adversity.
B is your beliefs.
And often theyre irrational.
This shouldnt happen to me.
Well, guess what, Bubba?
You get angry, frustrated or depressed.
In very few cases can you change A.
But you’re able to change B.
And that will change C. So lets bring in the 4th letter.
D: Dispute your irrational beliefs.
When did the universe guarantee me a trouble-free existence?
Traffic has happened before.
It will happen again.
And I will survive.
Look for beliefs that hold the words should, ought or must.
Thats where the problems lie.
Losing your job or an unexpected medical expense is always gonna cause some stress.
But you might save yourself some trouble by not already being worked up over the little things.
The Secret To Never Being Frustrated Again| Barking Up the Wrong Tree
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