That may just be because we dont realize small talks true function: its not about substance.
Its about making a connection.
You probably dont have a ton of small talk with people you already know and like.
Think of this exchange: Hows it going?
Oh, pretty good.
You want to feel safe, feel welcomed, and have a sense of belonging.
Its just not overtly verbalized.
Why small talk is so excruciating| Vox
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