You finished a 10K, but can’t complete a marathon.
It can go on and on.
No matter how much you accomplish, you still hate yourself.
Let’s fix that.
“The sea expects nothing from me,” she explains.
“I cannot disappoint the sea.
It does not care.
The sea roars, either way.”
Your place could be anywhere.
It’s quiet, remote, and a great place to reset everything stupid in my head.
Identify Your Niche
Similarly, find your own niche in the world.
Instead of feeling bad about what youcan’tdo, you’re able to think about all the things youcan.
Chances are, that’s at least partially because you’re concentrating on the wrong things.
It’s easier to beat yourself up for what youcan’tdo instead of figuring out what you’re best at.
Finding your niche works on a lot of levels too.
You have a lot of tools to really figure out what you’re best at.
It’s amazing what having “one good thing” can do your overall self-respect.
Practice a Little Self-Knowledge
One of the problems with self-loathing often stems from an overabundance of humility.
On its own, humility isn’t a bad trait to have.
Taken too far it becomes a hindrance that prevents you from acknowledging your accomplishments and accepting compliments.
The trick is to make some attempts to get to know yourself better.
A self-loather doesn’t see themselves as other people see them.
The point is that you don’t know as much about yourself as you think…
This is one of those cognitive truths that’s hard to correct for.
If you’re a self-loather, that feeling of inadequacy is around no matter what you do.
We’ve seen time and time again how wrong these preconceptions about ourselves are.
We think we know ourselves well, but that’s often not the case.
If you feel like a failure, ask yourself how bad you’ve really failed.
If you feel ugly, remind yourself of everything you’re great at.
Otherwise, you will be dissuaded into living a life you aren’t interested in.
Side note: you gotta handle failure and obscurity better.
You may be in a tough place right now where you feel lonely or like a loser.
No worries, we’ve all been there.
Those people get past them, and you will too.
Photos byDooder,Dennis Jarvis,JD Hancock,Allen Skyy, andNate Bolt.
