It goes without saying that most of us are overly attached to our cell phones.
Here are some simple strategies you could use to ensure your cell phone doesnt destroy your relationship.
It leaves you feeling second to a lunk of metal and plastic.
Say good morning, exchange a little kiss (morning breath be damned!
), and spend a minute cuddling.
Turn your cell phones off or put them away at night.
Spend your last waking minutes interacting with your partner.
you’re able to also consider banning cell phones from the bedroom altogether.
Aim to spend 20 electronics-free minutes a day with each other.
Put your phones away or on silent and talk to each other during at least half of your meals.
After sex, spend 10 minutes cuddling and talking before you reach for your phones.
Totally manageable, right?
This strategy almost always backfires, as most of us arent nearly as slick as we think.
Oftentimes, some incredibly simple communication will prevent fights from starting, and smooth things over.
Sadly, most partners do not take too kindly to this.
Dont pick your phone up again until the conversation is finished.
I want to check Facebook, but didnt want to interrupt you.
Try keeping your phone out of the bedroom for an entire weekend.
Turn off your work email notifications every day at 5pm.
Or have one cell phone-free day a week (No Cell Sundays?).
Use Your Phone for Good
Smartphones arent all bad!
There are definitely ways you’re able to use them to improve your sex life.
Send your partner sweet little text messages throughout the day, letting them know theyre on your mind.
Or send some saucy ones, to build up anticipation for seeing each other that evening.
you’re free to also use your phones tomake communication a bit easier.
Just give a shot to set a goal of working up to getting more comfortable with in-person communication.
Sit down together and have a conversation about realistic cell phone guidelines.
What can we do in the future to make each other feel like the priority?
Are there certain places or times that we want to keep phone-free?
Can we agree on completely acceptable times for smartphone usage?
Come back to this conversation every so often and revise your guidelines as necessary!
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.
Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.
Have questions about sex?
you might reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.
Image remixed frompenguin(Shutterstock).
