It takes some effort, but you might manage it and live in harmony.
If your schedules are opposite enough, you might never see each other during your waking moments.
Both situations are difficult to deal with, but it’s not impossible to find a balance.
It’s not just that passive time though.
If you’re able to, schedule more than that.
You have to make a continual effort.
You don’t need to go out and buy some fancy gift.
It seems like nothing, but it goes a long way when you’re on the receiving end.
The trash wasn’t taken out.
Dishes get left in the sink.
Clothes are all over the bedroom.
When you might’t deal with this in the moment, those little annoyances start to fester into something bigger.
Afterward, build up to a huge complaint.
The reason it’s good to swap?
Both of you must empathize with how it feels to be told you’re annoyingly irksome.
Make a list of these types of grievances, and let them rip when your schedule permits.
Just remember tokeep it constructive.
double-check both of you are on board and don’ttake anything too personally.
One person wants to go bed while the other wants to stay awake.
The other person’s up early in the morning and making a racket.
When you don’t get a good night of sleep you get irritable and things go downhill from there.
If there’s a TV in your bedroom, get rid of it.
If you’re struggling to get sleep during the day, try blackout curtains.
attempt to alter your sleep schedule.
Not everyone can completely change their sleep schedule, butit’s worth a shot.
If concessions aren’t working, consider separate beds or a separate workspace.
If you prefer to wake up early, get an alarm clock that doesn’t annoy the other person.
For example, mostfitness trackersfeature a vibrating alarm clock.
This is especially the case if you don’t find yourself going to bed at the same time often.
Nowadays, many people have stopped using paper calendars and use their technological devices to schedule important appointments.
The dates are just as important as any client appointments, dentist visits or pediatric check ups.
Scheduling for sex can also be agreat boon for the relationship.
You not only reestablish intimacy, you also have something to look forward to as the days go on.
Do whatever works for you here.
If you tend to have mornings available, take advantage of that time.
Embrace It
Sometimes you just need to make the best of a bad situation.
The hidden beauty of opposite schedules is that both people end up getting their little pocket of time alone.
Enjoy those routines while it’s possible for you to.
Likewise, if you’re on separate work schedules, take the added time and make use of it.
If you’ve got the option to quit, quit.
Chances are your family is far more important than your job.
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