Im five feet even, and married to a six footer.
Heres what Ive learned about being intimate when theres a significant height difference.
Fortunately, there are so many other fun things you could do when youre naked.
P-in-V should not be the default!
I like scrolling through pictures and illustrations for inspiration.
Two good resources areBad Girls BibleandSoFeminine.
Here are some good bets:
Receiving partner on top.
When your bodies are perpendicular, height differences arent noticeable.
The receiving partner drapes over the edge of the bed, either on their stomach or on their back.
Try receiving partner on top, with both partners sitting up.
If the receiving partner is the smaller person, this can be a really intimate position.
The larger partner essentially serves as a booster seat, allowing for actual eye contact.
Each couple will have to find their own unique variations, but the exploration is half the fun!
Instead, try using a sturdier sofa cushion or bed rest that wont deflate on you.
Their basicWedge/Ramp Combooffers a number of combinations, and you could get an extraLiftfor even more of a boost.
Sex can feel pretty damn goofy sometimes, but I actually think thats not such a bad thing.
Ive said before that people can take sex way too seriously.
Trying to crane your neck far enough to make 69-ing work certainly brings some levity back into the bedroom!
Ultimately, the challenges you face as a differently-sized couple arent that unique.
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.
Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.
Have questions about sex?
it’s possible for you to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.
Title illustration by Tara Jacoby.
