The best thing that it’s possible for you to do is practice moderation.

Experiment with setting guidelines for yourself, based on your porn consumption habits and your particular concerns.

Set a 30 minute timer for yourself, so you dont get sucked into video after video.

Only watch porn on the weekends.

Only watch porn with your partner.

Use apps likeSelf Controlif you dont trust your own willpower.

You may also notice that regular breaks from porn can rev up your desire for sex.

For some men, porn has a way ofmaking real life sex seem less appealing or enticing.

If you notice that effect, its yet another reason to reconsider your habits.

Seek Out Variety

Many people tend to watch the same key in of porn over and over.

Doing so is a good way to explore your sexuality and find out more about what you like.

Well shucks, me too!).

Theres so much out there to explore, so why limit yourself to female-female-male threesomes?

attempt to view porn as a complement to your masturbation sessions, rather than the star of the show.

When youre watching, take breaks to look away from the screen and down at your body.

Or try closing your eyes and really feeling into the sensations of touching yourself.

Some are simple and obviousIm hornywhile others are more complex.

Many men use porn as a way to soothe emotions like anger, sadness, frustration, or loneliness.

Is there something Im not wanting to pay attention to or acknowledge?

Or try setting a ground rule for yourself that youll only watch porn when youre in a good mood.

Perhaps the most important aspect of incorporating porn into your relationship isbeing honest with your partner about your habits.

When porn has been a problem for my clients, its mostly because one partner waslyingabout their porn usage.

you could also try watching porn together as foreplay.

In the real world, penises are much, much less cooperative.

Ask your partners what their boundaries are, and what they like and what they dont.

Dont expect your body (or your partners body) to respond the way bodies do in porn.

Dont expect that the techniques you see in porn are actually doable in real life.

Look to actual sex education resources, likebooksorworkshopsto help you develop your technique.

(By the way, these are alsogood lessons to teach your kids, if you have them.)

Support a Healthier Porn Industry

We can all create healthier relationships with porn by supporting better porn.

Check out theFeminist Porn AwardsorIndie Porn Revolution, both of which aim to create more authentic and diverse porn.

Read about Cindy Gallup and herMake Love Not Porncrusade.

Go to Dan SavagesHUMP!

festival, which showcases amateur porn made by real people.

I cant think of a sexier kind of activism than that!

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.

Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.

Have questions about sex?

you’re able to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.