How to Find the Perfect Lube for Any Kind of Sex

I firmly believe that lube can be a wonderful addition to any persons sex life.

Dont just pick something random off the shelf.

Heres everything you gotta know to make a smart selection.

The Basic Types of Lube

Lubes are generally categorized by their ingredients.

Theyre nice and silky, without any tacky residue.

Silicone-based lubes are great for anal sex, and are safe to use with latex condoms.

They can also be used in water, likein the shower.

My holy grail lube isPjur Original.

Water-based lubesfeel a little thinner and slipperier.

They are extremely easy to clean up.

Water-based lubes are compatible with silicone sex toys and with latex condoms.

I recommendWicked Aqua, which feels much more like a silicone lube than a water-based one.

Oil-based lubesinclude things like coconut oil and olive oil.

Oils should also never be used with latex condoms.

Novelty lubescan include flavored lubes, warming lubes, so-called arousal lubes, and desensitizing lubes.

There are a handful of products out there that use natural ingredients likeAloe VeraorCarageenan.

you’re free to alsoDIY your own lube.

Its usually best to make your selections based on what activities are part of your sexual repertoire.

Avoid any product with perfume, mint, menthol, petroleum, glycerin, and cinnamon.

Fortunately, most high quality lubes are made without these ingredients.

You want it to feel soft and smooth the whole time.

Try a different lube on your other hand so you’ve got the option to compare.

Walk around the store for a few minutes, then touch your skin again.

Another fantastic option is to purchase lube trial sizes or sample packs.

You get what you pay for when it comes to lube.

Theres no need to limit yourself to just one lube, either!

You might like to have a thickerlube for anal sex, but prefer a thinner one for masturbation.

I also likethis water-based lubethats specially formulated for use with sex toys.

Its great to have different options for different activities!

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.

Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.

Have questions about sex?

you’ve got the option to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.

Illustration by Tina Mailhot-Roberge.