This is a good problem.

The fact that you even have this problem means you have someone to visit.

Still, it’s tough to navigate and it can add tension to a happy time of the year.

Do they live in different cities?

Would someone be especially hurt if you didn’t make it?

Is there someone in the family that you or your partner do not get along with very well?

Budget:What can you afford to do?

Time:How much time do you or your partner get away from work?

Is it even possible to see both sides of the family?

Fairness:Do you see one side of the family way more than the other on a regular basis?

If so, the holidays might be a good time to make up for some lost time.

What’s important is that you and your partner come to an agreement without resenting each other.

Be diplomatic about holiday inquiries and nicely explain that you and your significant other haven’t decided yet.

In fact, you may be better off keeping things loosey goosey until the holiday is much closer.

Ask them how they feel about the holiday in question.

Which holiday is the most important to you or your partner’s parents?

Writer Sara Goas at the Examiner suggestspicking your battles wisely:

Decide which holidays are more important to you.

Is Christmas your favorite day of the year, or do you prefer Thanksgiving?

Does your grandmother come up from Florida for her once-a-year visit to spend Christmas with you?

When you’ve taken the time to prioritize your holidays, it’s easier to split up the time.

Be open about what holidays you like and what specific traditions are the most important to you.

Who knows, maybe it’ll work out perfectly so no one has to miss their favorite family tradition.

If both families are close enough together, consider splitting the day in half.

Spend one day with one family and then pick another day to celebrate with the other family.

Who says you’re free to’t have two Thanksgivings?

If they do, switch out who gets the real holiday every year.

Or maybe just stay put at home and start creating your own traditions together.

Whoever has the most points at the end wins.

Feel free to create a more personal quiz for you and your partner based off this structure.

Don’t let this kind of decision become a fight.

In the end, it’s about doing the best you could to make everybody happy, including yourself.