Theres potential for embarrassment regardless of which side of the table youre on.
If you think its a date and they dont, youre going to make a fool of yourself.
Seriously, it is a lot less embarrassing to ask than it is to make the wrong move.
Youre always better off asking.
Of course, not everyone has the gall for that.
If you cant imagine asking, youll need to look for signs.
Same goes if you find yourself at a fancier restaurant instead of the usual burger joint up the street.
Theres an awkward moment when the check comes.
Regardless of how you feel about the who should pay?
question, if its a date, theres usually a little hesitation when that bill comes.
All the obvious stuff applies here too.
If youre not interested in a person romantically, just say it.
Sometimes, things come on a little more strong.
Its a little gross, but at this point its your only choice.
Just confirm you reschedule so they know youre not bailing.
Make light of the situation with a joke.
It doesnt know what its talking about!
If all else fails, you might always just blame it on them.
These include fish, rice, dairy products (unless youre lactose intolerant), and strained fruit juice.
In either case theembarrassment goes away eventually.
It might sound far-fetched, butits more common than youd think.
Ask if youre following them on Twitter/Instagram/etc.
If youre lucky, youll get a name.
If you met them at an event, go through that events page and see if theyre on there.
If you have their phone number, search for it.
If they put their phone number on Facebook itll pull up their profile.
Complainabout your student IDor drivers license and show it off.
Chances are theyll do the same.
Doing so when youre on a date makes that situation even worse.
The trick here is to keep your cool.
Dont try and hide, dont pretend you dont know them.
Say hello, introduce your date, and move on.
Keep the encounter as brief as humanly possible (this is key), but keep it friendly.
If youre lucky, the conversation ends there, with your date none the wiser.
So well, in fact, that you decide to lean in for that first kiss.
But, much to your surprise, your date turns their head, shooing you away.
Pretend you were going to reach for something behind them?
Throw a temper tantrum?
Ask them why not?
Dont do any of those things.
Instead, act like a grown up and accept it.
As with any rejection, its also a prime time for learning.
What was their body language like?
Was there any touching?
Chances are, you misread something.
Thats okay, it happens to everyone.
The best way to prevent it from happening again is to learn the signs for when someonedoeswant that kiss.
