We live our lives trying to fulfill expectations, both our own and others'.
Sometimes, they can be daunting, but ignoring them won’t make them go away.
you’re gonna wanna learn how to deal with them, and rise to the challenge.
Adult film star Jiz Lee illustrates this point withhow couples behave in the bedroom.
Lee explains that setting “sexual expectations” for your encounter can easily become a recipe for disaster.
Try it simply just to try it."
The takeaway is to change the approach towards your task.
It’s good toset goals and achieve them, but don’t expect that achievement.
In fact, as we have already said,learn to enjoy the process of achieving your goals.
You expect it to be cold once winter comes around.
It’s happened in the past, it’s going to happen again, right?
Just knowing that andbeing mindfulof it is the first step to managing internal expectations.
Of course, doing that is easier said than done.
Bregman has one trick to get over your confirmation bias.
Instead of seeking evidence to confirm our perspectives, we can seek to shake them up.
Instead of wanting to be right, we can want to be wrong.
Of course, this takes a tremendous amount of confidence.
Let’s face it, we’d all prefer to be right than wrong.
So next time you look at an employee, ask yourself what’s changed?
Here’s the problem though:exceeding expectations isn’t necessarily better than meeting them.
For example, you know that your mom expects you to call every week.
So you might make a run at do better and call her twice a week.
When you’re free to’t do that, everyone is disappointed by the missed expectations.
“Invest efforts into keeping promises, not in exceeding them,” he says.
Talk to Others to Clarify Their Expectations
Expectations are abstract.
Too often, they are not clearly defined nor expressed.
Talk to the person setting the expectations.
As Foo Fighters guitaristChris Shiflett puts it:
Expectations are just leftover praise.
They are a blessing.
If you didn’t have the capability to meet them, they wouldn’t exist.
Sports stars often carry great expectations from their fans.
And more so because it was a World Cup at home.
We workshopped, dealing with the pressure and how they would handle it.
In turn, you will be able to take the challenges of life.
