Buying lingerie might seem intimidating, but it doesn’t have to be.
Plus, the payoff of seeing your lady in that little number you bought will be well worth it.
Here’s how to do it right.
You want this to be a fun experience for both of you.
), and some women feel self-conscious with the revealing nature of lingerie.
It’s likely that you have a far higher opinion of your lady’s body than she does.
For those reasons, I recommend focusing your search on items thatyouwant to see her in.
Try a pair of thigh-highs with a seam up the back.
Try a skimpy pair of underwear that shows plenty of cheek.
Tell her your reasons for the specific item when you give her the gift.
…But Avoid Her Insecurities
Here’s where things get a little trickier.
She might feel extremely self-conscious about the body parts that you happen to most love.
On the other hand, if she says something like, “are you insane?
My breasts are so tiny.
Would you be okay with that?”
Sure, you’ll ruin the surprise, but that’s probably okayespecially the first time around.Communication always wins.
Pick your favorite out of the ones that get her seal of approval.
You know I’m clueless about this pop in of stuff; what do you think?"
The first rule of gifting lingerie: don’t buy anything unless you’re confident about her size!
Buy something too large and she may be insulted.
Go too small and she might be embarrassed (or get stuck in the clothing itself).
Either way, she won’t be able to wear it.
Do your homework first!
Write them down so you don’t forget.
The company claims to have figured out an algorithm to measure the perfect bra fit.
Do your shopping onlineproblem solved.
Keep in mind, though, that polite, respectful men are more than welcome in lingerie stores.
Ladies who sleep with ladies, this is another area that’s easier for you!
Give Your Gift at the Right Time
Some occasions work better than others for lingerie gifts.
I actually think it’s a perfect “just because” gift.
Surprise lingerie can be the key in of much needed shake-up that most people’s sex lives direly need.
Check in with her first.
Your Best Bets
Still lost?
Here are some solid options:
A matching bra and panty setlike this duo from Huitis a classic combination.
Balconette bras likethis stunner from Chantelle Intimatestend to look great on most breast sizes and shapes.
Use her shirt size for the chemise, and dress size for the babydoll.
Black tends to be the most flattering color.
Get creative and look beyond Victoria’s Secret!
You’ll get bonus points for the extra effort that goes into scouting out something unique.
If your girlfriend’s style is girly, check outHoneydew Intimates' line of flirty and colorful lingerie.
If she likes more simple pieces,Eberjeyis a great choice.
If she’s into indie designers,For Love And Lemonshas a ton of unique options.
If you want to splurge,Stella McCartneyis a classic.
If you’re on a budget,Etsyis a surprisingly great resource for interesting and affordable lingerie.
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.
Have questions about sex?
you’re free to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.
Title image byRegusMartin(Pixibay) andorfeev(Shutterstock).
