Here are some less-obvious ways to help you keep your alone time from making you feel lonely.
You might be alone in this very moment, but that doesnt mean you have tofeellonely right now.
These thoughts will only make you feel more lonely.
Instead, get your thoughts out of the past and focused on whats happening right in front of you.
Embrace the moment and do something fun, productive, or engaging.
Action of any kindeven just watching TVwill keep you from dwelling on the past and get you moving forward.
Adrienne Breaux at Apartment Therapy recommendsidentifying those triggerswhen youre not already in a lonely spiral.
When youre in high spirits, attempt to recall what made you feel lonely the last time.
Maybe it was a photo, an object, or even a song.
you’re free to counter some triggers by removing them from your presence.
Maybe you put the photo away in storage for a bit.
Or maybe its time toditch some of the sentimental itemsthat have been bogging you down.
Remove songs that make you sad from your playlists if you’re gonna wanna.
you’re able to also counter triggers with other triggers.
Have a go-to activity for when you feel loneliness creeping up on you.
Play a game, watch a movie, read your favorite book.
Whatever it is that can shift the gears in your mind, always have it at the ready.
Triggers can be almost anything, even just certain times of day.
For me, I personally used to feel lonely on Sunday evenings.
I prepare for work, watch my current TV show, and have a go at wind down early.
You go to do laundry, and you dont have to wait for someone elses clothes.
When you invite friends over, you dont need to ask permission.
When you get your utilities bill, you arent paying for anyone else.
No one ever eats your food.
The list goes on and on.
While youre at it, think about all the things you’ve got the option to dobecauseyoure alone.
you’re able to dance around naked while listening to embarrassing music.
Or make a huge mess cooking dinner without feeling like a slob.
you’ve got the option to even talk to yourself and no one would know.
Sothink of your alone time as an opportunity for progress, not a curse.
Best of all, you could take the time to get to know yourself.
You might find out that you like yourself a lot.
If not, youll know why, and youll have the time to try and fix it.
Avoid Flaking Out on Plans
When you get invited to something, make an effort to go.
Even if its just for a little bit.
Sometimes we flake out on things because we think that nothing can pull us out of our funk.
Youll have a good time with friends or family, and you might get some clarity.
And if you dont want to wait for plans, make them yourself.
Dont ever be afraid to reach out to others when you feel lonely.
