Ive been downright impressed by the creativity evident in some of my clients masturbation techniques.
Reddits /r/sex subreddit can be a good source of inspiration.Heresa thread to get you started.
If youre single right now, try using different masturbation techniques at least half of the time you masturbate.
Another option is to take a complete hiatus from masturbation to increase your overall sensitivity.
Fortunately, these effects arent lasting.
Regular breaks of a week or more can help increase the level of sensation you experience.
You probably tried to get the deed done as quickly as possible, to avoid being caught.
Over the years, you trained your body to reach orgasm ASAP, perhaps even in mere seconds.
The penis doesnt usually respond too well to this confusing change of events.
The Solution: Fortunately, you could train yourself to last longer with masturbation.
Think about how long youd like to last during your preferred partnered sexual activities.
Want to last 15 minutes during intercourse?
Dont let yourself orgasm until youve masturbated for at least 15 minutes.
you could practice this by edging yourself.
Start back up again, and repeat this stop-and-start pattern until youve reached your optimal time limit.
Another technique is to trydoing Kegel exerciseswhile you masturbate.
The stronger these muscles get, the greater control it’s possible for you to have over your orgasm.
Most men know about Kegels, but dont tend to practice them during masturbation.
When youre masturbating, try pulsing your PC muscles repeatedly.
Theres also the old standby technique of masturbating before you know youre going to hook up.
Its not the most reliable trick, but in a pinch, it can occasionally help you last longer.
For some men, theres an element of control that comes up.
They like being the ones stimulating themselves, and have a hard time responding to another persons touch.
Sex toys are a potential solution here, like theAuto Blow 2, an oral sex simulator.
Another option is, once again, to take a brief hiatus from masturbation.
Use your own hand to get closer to orgasm before resuming sex with your partner.
Masturbating in front of your partner can be an incredibly sexy experience for both of you!
The bottom line here is to be mindful about the role masturbation plays in your life.
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.
Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.
Have questions about sex?
it’s possible for you to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.
Illustration by Jim Cooke.
