Masturbation isnt only enjoyable by yourself(although lets be honest, its fun alone, too.)
Lets talk about how!
Here are some of easy things to try:
Try new strokes.
Change the speed or pressure that you usually use.
Use a different number of fingers.
Get into new body positions.
On your stomach or on your hands and knees are popular with a lot of women.
Use a handheld showerhead or the bathtub faucet.
Another way to do it is to go cold-turkey on your typical routine.
Show Your Partner how to do It
Theres no need to be shy about your masturbation habits!
Your partner would be crazynotto enjoy the show!
Start off by masturbating on your own for a few minutes while your partner watches.
Then have your partner put their hand over yours so they can get a feel for what youre doing.
you’re able to do this whether youre using your handsor a vibrator.
Give them verbal feedback, like go in a circle or just a bit more pressure.
Once theyve got a sense of what youre doing, you’re free to try tag-teaming your clitoris.
Switching off like this will help your body get used to being stimulated by another person.
Give Yourself a Hand
Theres also no shame in masturbating to completion when youre with a partner.
This is a great strategy forwomen who cant orgasm from penetration(i.e.
70% of us), or who experience a significant mismatch of orgasmic timing with their partners.
Making it easier to orgasm with a partner is yet another reason whymasturbation can be so amazing.
Put those fingers to work!
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.
Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.
Have questions about sex?
you’re able to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.
Illustration by Tara Jacoby.
