Speaking with The Wall Street Journal, Dr. Diane Felmlee calls this phenomenon “fatal attraction.”
So a trait’s dark side isn’t clear until later.
A trait that was never a problem before is suddenly interpreted as bad.
In Rose-Colored Glasses, we are attracted to a positive quality yet secretly suspect it has a darker side.
We choose to ignore the dark side until we can’t anymore.
Lastly, there is Familiarity Breeds Contempt.
A person just gets annoying if you are around him or her all the time.
As you’d expect, you also need to be aware of those quirks in yourself as well.
Head over to The Wall Street Journal for a few more tips.
