Do This Tonight: Finger Her, and Only Finger Her

There are a lot ofunderrated sex acts, but heres a big one youve probably been ignoring: fingering.

Most established heterosexual couples have long since abandoned fingering.

If they do it at all, they do what I call the let-me-just-pop-my-finger-in-here-real-quick-to-make-sure-its-wet-enough-for-my-dick move.

Having an entire sexual session where all youre doing is fingering her can feel so refreshing and unexpected.

Most women havent been thoroughly fingered in a very long time.

Fingers can give much more focused, deliberate, and intense stimulation than any other body part.

you might also use one hand inside of her and the other on her clitoris.

The combination of internal and external sensations can feel incredible.

Fingering is quite simply one of the easiest ways for women to reach orgasm.

you’ve got the option to give her the exact kind of stimulation she needs.

Get Her Permission

Ask her if shell let you finger her tonight.

Build up some anticipation by sending her this article, or a sexy text.

Let her know that tonight its going to be all about her, and her only.

Tell her how excited you are to lavish attention on her gorgeous body.

Donotcut your nails right before doing the deed, as theyll be too sharp!

A good fingering requires good lube!

I recommend high-quality silicone lubricant likePjur Eros Bodyglide Original.

Silicone lubes feel best against the skin.

Leave her underwear on, and trace your fingertips lightly over the fabric.

You want her to be squirming with anticipation before actually getting down to business.

Get in a comfortable position that gives you good leverage with both hands.

Use your dominant hand on her clitoris, and your non-dominant hand inside of her.

Start off slow and gentle, and gradually build up to more intensity.

Fingering your lady can be an awful lot of fun.

Youre completely in charge of her pleasure, and can watch her respond to your every touch.

If she knows youre enjoying yourself, shell have a better time too.

Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.

Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.

Have questions about sex?

you’ve got the option to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.