In a relationship, arguments are normal.
The goal, however, should be tofinish the argument and solve your problems.
So, it’s best to avoid them.
“You’re so messy!”
is easy to dismiss as “Well, yeah.
I’ve been like this our entire relationship.”
Whereas “Would you kindly do the dishes more often?”
is a tangible way to improve.
But blanket condemnations of your partner’s character are anathema to a loving relationship.
They will make her feel hurt and defensive, greatly hindering any chance of communication.
They’re liable to answer: “I’m sorry, but this is the way I am!”
The key is identifying specific actions you have a quarrel with, rather than an innate personal problem.
One has to assume if you’re in a relationship with someone, you accept their personality.
Specific actions can be an area of compromise, without a ton of hurt feelings.
Check out The Art of Manliness' post for more ways to communicate more effectively with your partner.
The 10 Commandments of Clean Communication| The Art of Manliness
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