So many of the women in my sex therapy practice complain that they dont like masturbating.
By the time theyve reached adulthood, they feel too embarrassed to start learning how to masturbate.
The bottom line is that there is no age that is too old to start masturbating.
Other good reasons for masturbating?
It can relieve headaches, menstrual cramps, and stress.
But seriously guys, masturbation is a skill that is so worth learning.
Plus, Ive got your back with some specific things to try.
Try diagonally, in a figure-eight, in a circle, up and down, and side to side.
Each time you try a particular stroke, ask yourself, does this feel good?
The only rights and wrongs when it comes to masturbation are whether something feels pleasurable for you or not.
If the answer is no, this doesnt feel that great, just move on to trying another stroke.
When you find something you like, keep doing it for as long as it feels pleasurable.
Try not to think about orgasm at first.
Before you write me off as a nonsensical idiot (my degree is inreversepsychology!
), allow me to explain.
It should feel pleasurable throughout, and that pleasure is what you should focus on.
If You Get Bored or Distracted
The average woman takes 20 minutes to orgasm.
Many women will take that long at the beginning, but can eventually work their timelineswaydown with practice.
When you start to zone out, refocus yourself with the question, does this feel good?
Want to learn more about masturbation?
Let me know what questions you want answered!
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.
Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.
Have questions about sex?
you’ve got the option to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.
Illustration by Jim Cooke.
