About 75% have some sort of misinformation or inaccurate belief about their genitals.
Heres your guide to breaking out of those statistics and becoming friends with your crotch.
At times, you may have even been a bit befuddled by it.
But you probably also want your genitals to feel good, right?
Its hard for both of those dynamics to exist at once.
Make a Date with Yourself
To start, lets take a tour of your lady bits.
After reading the description, give a shot to find that part on your own body.
First one to find em all gets a prize!
Its covered in pubic hair.
Theres an incredible amount of variety when it comes to labia.
Labia can be brown, tan, pink, black, red, purple or cream.
Some women have larger outer labia, while others have larger inner labia.
There is no normal, so dont worry what yours looks like!
The clitoris is typically hidden under a clitoral hood, which is a thin membrane of skin.
You may need to pull the hood back to make it see your clitoris.
Its a very small opening, so you may not be able to see it with your eye.
The G-Spot: Oh, the G-spot.
Is there any structure in the female anatomy thats more hotly debated?
Some say that every woman has a G-spot, while others believe that only some women have them.
It is about the size of a nickel, and is dense and spongy.
The Perineum: This area is the smooth strip of skin between your vaginal opening and the anus.
The Anus: You might need to maneuver around a little bit to take a look at your anus.
The nickname balloon knot is surprisingly apt.
The anus is surrounded by nerve endings, and can be a ton of fun to play with.
See if you might find all of the pleasurable ways of stimulating each part of your genitals.
And the more comfortable you are with it, the better your sex is going to be.
Pleasure and Orgasm
This is undeniably the most fun thing about having lady parts.
(Sorry, guys.)
Were also capable of having multiple orgasms.
The clitoris is the center of the orgasmic universe for most women.
Repetitive stimulation of the clitoris is typically what leads to orgasm.
The implications of this fairly recent discovery are huge.
Its still the clitoris getting stimulated, just different parts of it!
Fortunately, the vagina is also designed to return to normal after all this stretching.
A lot of women feel self-conscious about their perceived vaginal looseness.
Without having seen your vagina, I can assure you that theres absolutely nothing wrong with your muscle tone.
If youd like to develop more control over your muscles, however, try doing Kegels.
Squeeze the muscles you use to cut off the flow of urine, then release and repeat.
you could also invest in a nifty little toy like theKGoalto help you develop a training regimen!
Pubic Hair Care
Pubic hair groomingis an important part of your relationship with your genitals.
If you choose to remove all or some of your pubic hair (and you certainly dont have to!
In fact, adding more lube is almost always more fun!
Discharge
The lubrication process is happening constantly, so Unfortunately having a vagina means having discharge.
Your body is always producing natural lubricant.
You absolutely do NOT need to douche or clean your insides with soap.
Women who squirt typically report that they require G-spot stimulation to do so.
The G-spot typically requires very intense stimulation.
Thats why I recommend hefty toys like thenjoy Pure Wandif you want to experiment with it.
When you start stimulating the G-spot, you might initially feel like you better pee.
Dont worryit will go away if you keep going, and a more pleasurable, non-pee-related sensation will build.
Yeast Infections
Your vagina maintains a delicate bacterial balance.
Introducing unhealthy bacteria or killing off the good strains can lead to infection.
Here are some easy tips for avoiding yeast infections:
Wipe from front to back.
Give your vagina some room to breathe!
Dont wear thongs all day every day.
Sleep naked when you’ve got the option to.
Dont hang out in your gym clothes after youve worked out.
(Pro-tip: Dont bother with the suppositories you find at the drugstore.
Those things are a pain in the ass to deal with!)
Trust me, you want to avoid UTIs like the plague.
it’s possible for you to also take cranberry extract as a precautionary step.
Vaginal Tearing
Your vaginal walls are delicate and susceptible to tiny microtears.
Using artificial lube is a great way to prevent tearing from happening in the first place, too.
Queefs happen when air gets trapped in the vagina and squelches out.
Queefs can be embarrassing in the moment, but theyre a natural byproduct of penetration.
Just laugh it off or ignore it!
While rare, it can cause an air embolism, which can be fatal.
Vanessa Marin is a licensed psychotherapist (#78931) specializing in sex therapy.
Its her mission to take the intimidation out of sex therapy and bring the fun back into the bedroom.
Have questions about sex?
you’re able to reach her at[email protected], or at VMTherapy.com.
Illustration by Tina Mailhot-Roberge.
